Beau Pere (1981)

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Avg Rating: 4.4 / 5. Voted: 104

No one cared thus far. Do you?

AKA: Stepfather
Year: 1981
Directed by: Bertrand Blier
Starring: Patrick Dewaere (Remi), Ariel Besse (Marion), Maurice Ronet (Marion’s biological Dad Charly)
Country: France
Language: French (English subtitles)
Runtime: 01:59:12
Genres: Old-Young, Incest

Plot – Spoilers:
Remi is a cynical depressed pianist who works at a posh French restaurant and is married to a small-time model Martine who has recently taken up lingerie shoots to offset their precarious financial situation. Remi is hitting 30 and is convinced he’s a failure with no hope of redeeming a career that was full of promise at a younger age. Their marriage too has hit rock bottom with the two hardly ever seeing each other – as Remi puts it, When I get home at night, you’re asleep. When you awake, I’m asleep.

Martine has a 14 year-old daughter Marion from a previous marriage to night club owner Charly. Marion has been raised by Remi from the age of 6 and so when Martine suddenly dies in an accident, Marion opts to stay on with Remi despite Charly offering to care for her. The Remi-Marion relationship from Remi’s point of view initially appears non-sexual. He looks at her fatherly and sees in her innocence, someone who cares and acknowledges him and his music that few give a damn about. But soon things get weird and complicated when Marion unconditionally expresses her love for him in a non-daughterly way….

Favourite Scenes:
1. Remi has taken Marion moving out badly and is sitting lonely and miserable in his apartment when she returns. Can’t even be miserable in peace is his state of mind when he hears the bell ringing. The fact that she has chosen him over her biological Dad gives him a new zest for life and he even perks up, especially when she asks him to fight for her. It makes him feel like a man again and feel wanted. When Charly arrives to take Marion back, the two get into an awkward fight that’s funny; but what’s funnier is when they sit together, bruised and hilariously sheepish as Marion patches them up.

2. When Marion unburdens herself to Remi:
Over the course of the interactions where Marion lets Remi know about her sexual urges, his primary issue is not that she is like a daughter whom he therefore cannot imagine being sexually attracted to. Rather, it’s about their age difference and what Martine, if she were alive, would have had to say about the relationship. In fact, just before Marion tells him her feelings for the first time, you can clearly see him checking her out as she walks away from his bed. So it’s fairly possible that Remi had been attracted to her as she grew up but suppressed these feelings out of guilt and shame.

The first two times when Marion talks to Remi about her feelings are separated by a short scene of Remi playing the piano with uncharacteristic wild abandon, which is kind of funny.

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ASTRAHAWKS
ASTRAHAWKS
September 9, 2023 7:14 am

Love the movie, every minute of it from start to finish. And gonna think of it for a while just like the movie lolita.
The relationship of the kid and her step father excites me.
I think this is not pedo cos the girl is 15 and is already close to legal age

ASTRAHAWKS
ASTRAHAWKS
Reply to  ASTRAHAWKS
September 9, 2023 7:19 am

But in the end, its wrong from society eyes.
Remi did choose a woman his age and its a good decision because marion must live her life, a normal life.

hhhx
hhhx
June 7, 2023 11:56 pm

dumb bastards

Blue De Chanel
Blue De Chanel
August 26, 2022 2:57 pm

Hello. Firstly, he set this up from the beginning. He never loved his wife, he was always after her daughter. And if you watch the scene when she crashes her car, he says “ I liked her face “ or something to this effect. But he uses past tense. He knew that her brakes were cut and she would get into the accident. It was all set up. And then when she came onto him, he knew he had to play it as if he didn’t want it to build the tension to a fever pitch. Why else would he pine over her not being with him. This main character is one of the smoothest, most manipulative and cunning main characters in film history. This movie is incredible. I will simply not forget it’s plot and will strongly encourage others to watch it.

howltrbl
howltrbl
May 29, 2021 8:35 am

julien bichet if u see this i fucking love you

julien bichet
julien bichet
Reply to  howltrbl
May 29, 2021 10:40 am

stop stalking me

howltrbl
howltrbl
Reply to  julien bichet
May 29, 2021 3:51 pm

what the fuck

queso
queso
Reply to  julien bichet
August 10, 2021 3:48 pm

lol

ASTRAHAWKS
ASTRAHAWKS
Reply to  julien bichet
September 9, 2023 7:00 am

Lmao 😆

Lemons
Lemons
May 28, 2021 5:16 am

Great film!

I’d actually read this in a psychology book. Teens usually feel attraction to their parents those years. Yes, it’s wrong what Remi did and he can go to jail for it but it’s also a sad thought that we, humans can’t always have what we wanted.

ASTRAHAWKS
ASTRAHAWKS
Reply to  Lemons
September 9, 2023 7:10 am

But its not her father

Jason
Jason
April 20, 2021 2:06 am

wow, i loved this film. This will take up some space in my brain for quite a while, the last scenes makes you second guess Remi’s intentions and what he really wanted

Nightmarica
Nightmarica
April 4, 2021 9:59 pm

just because some teenage girls seem like they are more mature and appear ready to be sexual in a adult way dosent mean adults should be having sex with them. A lot of young girls and boys think they know what they are doing when they are young and grow up to regret it. its up to adults to try and steer them in the right direction not take advantage of them. there seems to be a lot of pedo apologists on this site who think its close minded to say what im saying but that is just a cope. if you truly believe you love someone that is not of age you would wait until they are. if you cant you are sick. you are scared that in the time that they are growing up they will have realized youre a fuckin loser cuz you are. youre not “open minded” you are a small minded ape and you will never be happy and dont deserve to be. i feel sorry for people who are actually sick in the head but pedophilia is becoming way to normalized in our society and people dont even realize it. if you are attracted to kids and have no self control you need to do yourself and the world a favor and put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger. no one should allow themselves or be allowed to go around ruining peoples lives and thats exactly what happens when you act… Read more »

Hmm.
Hmm.
Reply to  Nightmarica
April 5, 2021 5:14 pm

I’m assuming you haven’t actually seen the movie as your comment was taken entirely out of context. I wouldn’t say this is a film about pedophilia and if you actually had taken the time to watch it you’d understand what I mean. Also, if you are so moral, this probably isn’t the website for you… I would elaborate further, but I believe both Pieter and OJ made very good points and I don’t think I could add much to what they have said. I’d also like to say that I am not a defender of pedophiles or a pedophile myself, rather a defender of sexually frustrated, sexually repressed teenage girls (I was one, once, and I’m sure I’m not the only person who has felt that way). It’s unfair to assume that girls in these situations are always victims, or that young girls are too stupid or ignorant to know what they want. Watch some Catherine Breillat films (36 Fillette, Une vraie jeune fille for instance) and you might understand what I’m trying to say. Also, there is never reason to tell someone to kill themself, It’s quite a pathetic retaliation actually. I can’t stand these sort of petty attacks. These days it seems that instead of criticising somebody constructively (if that makes sense) people just call each other names like they’re still in the school playground. I see it a lot on this website. ‘Fucking loser!’ ‘Cunt-faced whore!’ ‘Sick fucking bastard!’ Based on the way your comment was phrased… Read more »

Angel ♡
Angel ♡
Reply to  Hmm.
December 25, 2021 1:33 pm

ur weird af

michaelmycock
michaelmycock
Reply to  Angel ♡
April 8, 2022 9:10 am

and you are extremely boring, start to think about anything that sorrounds you. You are on a website called effedupmovies and call people out for being weird, how uninspired do you need to be

OJ
OJ
November 27, 2020 10:40 am

I think we all very sensitive to who is 18 who is not. She was ready for love and the transition from being a child to being a teenager has been already started. Legal age should be 15 not 18.

pedokiller
pedokiller
Reply to  OJ
November 28, 2020 1:33 am

how would you like to die?

Jiiu
Jiiu
Reply to  pedokiller
November 28, 2020 4:49 pm

Get over yourself you pathetic keyboard warrior.

Kikitza
Kikitza
Reply to  pedokiller
April 1, 2022 5:08 am

I like your username, hope you live up to it

michaelmycock
michaelmycock
Reply to  pedokiller
April 8, 2022 9:06 am

do you know that when gays have been fighting for their rights there was a tendention discovered; people who were the most anti-gay happened to be gay and wanted to do everything against gays just so they don’t be associated with the community. I’d say it is extremely interesting that you’re so captivated to hate pedophilia, you must spend a lot of time thinking about sexual relations involving underage people, right?

MoeFo
MoeFo
Reply to  michaelmycock
July 28, 2023 1:19 pm

“A tendention discovered” Oh really, you fucking imbecilic clown tool. You believe everything you read? Even with all the exposure of total bullshit propaganda pushed by radical, lying scumbags only to serve their sick and twisted narratives? And you can’t even consider that it is obviously VERY likely that the sick FUCKS who want to destroy immature, overly-emotional and unstable, underage CHILDREN’s LIVES for their own warped desire to get a NUT OFF… would DEFINITELY fabricate such BULLSHIT – and here you are so fucking braindead that you uncuriously suck that kool-aid down with the biggest straw that you can find. IDIOTS like you still deny that the deep state exists, and hillary’s campaign, the DNC and the FBI and CIA made up every lie about Trump for five+ years now, and the radical left-wing media (and now the fake right-wing) willingly propagated the fuck out of it 24/7. You’re what is called a sock puppet tool-bag. Btw, you fucking retarded stooge; there’s no such word as tendention. Did you mean tendency or propensity or proclivity, you fucking twit? And I notice that you’re only able to steal the left-tards tactics of deferral as character assassination, which is what weak-minded dumb-asses rely on. As most unintelligent people do, you made ASSUMPTIONS and SPECULATIONS… and then tried to turn them into inferences and accusations… all over the place. I did not. That’s because my IQ is most likely at least 25 points higher than yours. One more thing; “so they don’t… Read more »

sav
sav
Reply to  OJ
December 18, 2020 10:00 pm

Oj ur gross

pieter
pieter
Reply to  OJ
March 26, 2021 5:51 pm

The movie is about a young girl experiencing love, sexuality and obsession for the first time. Remi is handling all this all very sensitively, to an extend. The movie is about the taboo of adolescent sexuality, just like Lolita was and still is. Young girls grow to be sexual beings much earlier than boys and they experience it most of the time in most brutal ways… People who throw accusations at people here who try to understand this social dilemma and watch this movie from that perspective is downright stupid and says more about those who accuse then about those who acknowledge the issue.

MoeFo
MoeFo
Reply to  pieter
July 28, 2023 1:25 pm

Wow.. just fuckin wow. I have a bag of hammers WAAAAAY more intelligent than you. AND it is NOT an excuse-making, sick and twisted pedophile like you.

Bongleiv Børst
Bongleiv Børst
Reply to  OJ
March 31, 2022 11:06 am

Well read some of all morons answers here its obvoius some “realy” r .
But ok , sensetive to 18 nope , who say its 18. Sensetive to legal low age yes. 18 is In America and kinda supriced Thailand . In Norway its 16 ,sweden 15 , Spain 13 – And for those shout out pedo to ya just for question some …. The real “pedo” pope vaktikat its 12…

Also i was in carribean yea was 16 . But as long still past 12 it was just a fine . Sure guess worked for the locals – A fine like a month pay for them .But a foreigner mabe 1 weak , a rich one few day … what i in basic try say . For a “pedo” with cash who realy wanted he could kinda with that law fuck a 12 year + and pay the fine with a smile – .

Butch Coolidge
Butch Coolidge
Reply to  Bongleiv Børst
March 31, 2022 1:43 pm

How many strokes did you have when you were typing this, or were you just born retarded?

Butch Coolidge
Butch Coolidge
Reply to  Butch Coolidge
April 1, 2022 3:07 pm

Mate… great comment, couldn’t agree more but PLEASE stop using my Avatar. Don’t want to hunt you down

TotalSoulRape13
TotalSoulRape13
Reply to  OJ
April 1, 2022 1:12 am

Kys

Butch Coolidge
Butch Coolidge
Reply to  OJ
April 1, 2022 3:12 pm

Maybe some day you will loose your virginity and find a woman crazy and dirty enough to have a baby with you. And I hope it will be a baby girl… and by 15 she will be gang banging on the streets in exchange of drugs. But hey, she will be an adult and nothing you can do about it!

MoeFo
MoeFo
Reply to  Butch Coolidge
July 28, 2023 1:33 pm

And you were critiquing someone else for their inability to write a sensible, cogent and concise comment??? You’re a fucking IDIOT. Just for one; the word you haven’t grasped yet, but should have learned in the third grade is “lose”, not “LOOSE”, you fucking monkey-brained dipshit.

michaelmycock
michaelmycock
Reply to  OJ
April 8, 2022 9:02 am

this is the only good comment you have ever made

MoeFo
MoeFo
Reply to  michaelmycock
July 28, 2023 1:42 pm

Coming from one of the dumbest douche-bags on this site, that is not an endorsement to be proud of. BUT I wouldn’t be surprised if that IDIOT you’re replying to has made one good comment somewhere, sometime.. whereas I doubt you EVER have. AND your agreeing with his STUPID take on this thing shows that you both are dumber than a pencil.

Alex
Alex
August 19, 2020 3:34 pm

I think that some of you are missing the point here. The film is about man who has sexual relations with a child. Throughout the movie it clouds your moral judgement because it seems that the girl is driving the relationship. However in the very last scenes it becomes abundantly clear what is going on. Moral judgement reinstated.

Washingtons
Washingtons
Reply to  Alex
September 22, 2020 12:28 am

I could see from the beginning when he was so obsessed her not getting a hold of him, picking up the phone calling her….it’s one thing “normal” step parent, to be healthy obsessed with how her transition is going her health and just happy to talk to her, not taking all their now loneliness and all that guilt on a 14 year olds shoulder, in a sense manipulating and twisting in what should just be school and “normal” 14 year old responsibilties and adding the back false thoughts of them needing to substitute the intimate position of the lost parent….

MoeFo
MoeFo
Reply to  Washingtons
July 28, 2023 1:46 pm

Are you completely fucked up on crack… or are you an imbecile who doesn’t possess the ability to write a single intelligible thought at even a third grade level?

ThatPsychopath
ThatPsychopath
February 25, 2020 7:45 pm

Great film, the acting really helps sale the story. The premise makes it seem like it would just be squicky, but it’s actually very sensitive and beautiful. I couldn’t help but feel for Remi and also Marion

MoeFo
MoeFo
Reply to  ThatPsychopath
July 28, 2023 3:16 pm

Hey, they just came up with a brand new word – about 2800 years ago. It is “sell”. SELL the story, you fucking retard. And WTF is “squicky”?? Holy FUCK, reading posts from the greatest gathering of uneducated baboons makes my brain hurt. I mourn my country and my world. I GUARANTEE you that I could write far better than nearly everyone on this website (and almost everywhere I look on the world-wide interwebs) when I was in the fourth grade, 57 years ago. WTF happened to our educational systems?? I did notice that in my sophomore or junior year in HS, they hired a pack of left-wing hippy buffoons with wing-nut “teaching methods” that would certainly DUMB DOWN the citizenry. Was that well-planned?? Ya know; to control the masses? I’m voting “yea”.

neva
neva
October 30, 2018 8:25 pm

Es una pelicula muy triste que recoje sentimientoos encontrados,la verdad la recomiendo